Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Misapprehension - Part One

The White Rabbit by Sir John Tenniel

There is a section of the brain - or of my brain, I should say - that seems to enjoy grabbing and holding on fiercely to beliefs that are just not true.  This is about one of them.

For years, decades, I have been telling myself that there were not enough hours in a day for all that a day was required to hold.  I believed it; I had proof.  I cannot call it an epiphany, the instant of electrifying awareness that things are other than assumed.  Instead, it felt more like waking up; not knowing in one moment, then knowing with certainty in the next.  Nothing jarring or gasp-producing.  Rather, "Oh, yes.   It could be like that."  I began to believe there is time  for what matters.

In other posts I've written about my fluid and somewhat non-ordinary relationship with time. I have written about a sense, an imperative, of proceeding through my life slowly.  That was not always the case.  Health concerns changed my pace and  I realized this is my authentic state.  All the hurry has leaked out of me.

What I have begun to do, and I hesitated to write of a process so new, is believe differently.  I do not tell myself, I do not think the words, "There isn't enough time."   As I find the 15 or so minutes each day to write and roughly illustrate a small journal page, I suspect the time was never missing.   But by believing there was not enough, there wasn't.

This may be very old news to all of you.  I know we are capable of limiting ourselves with false beliefs, but had not imagined it was something a person could just stop doing.  I was wrong about time and have begun to examine other notions that may be equally defeating.  If this account seems short or incomplete, it is because I expect there will be other posts,  detailing other misapprehensions.  Time is just the first Junior Mint I pulled out of the box, the big, theater-size box.


14 comments:

Kathleen said...

This is thrilling! To be a witness to your lovely insight.

Enjoy your newfound time.

Claire Beynon said...

Dear Marylinn, you have a gift for being with what is whilst at the same time living in - and with - anticipation (so very different from 'expectation'). xo

susan t. landry said...

a great exploration of the psychological elasticity of time...highly personal, and yet a fine topic on which the rest of us can have a happy rumination.

yours in chewing over thoughtfully,

susan

Marylinn Kelly said...

Kathleen - Thank you. I remain in wonder at the process of being human. I am enjoying.

Marylinn Kelly said...

Claire - Thank you. Let us say dazed, yet not confused? xo

Marylinn Kelly said...

Susan - Glad for your thoughtful chewing. I look forward to discovering what else can be changed by changing my mind. xo

Robert the Skeptic said...

Parkinson's Law: "The amount of time which one has [allocated] to perform a task is the amount of time it will take to complete the task."

As a scientist, I have tested this hypothesis on many occasions, although I confess, using my wife as my only lab subject. However, at least with this one variable, I find this law applies with regular consistency. As I write this; my wife started doing our taxes two months ago. As of today she tells me they are 95% complete. Today is April 11th. Science is about predicting outcomes based on observation: My prediction is that my wife will be working on finishing the taxes late into Sunday evening.

molly said...

ahhhhhhhhh, you mean, there really ARE enough hours in the day?! where ARE they? i've totally lost mine, marylinn!!
but am going to try to start thinking about it differently, as you suggest. thank you.

Marylinn Kelly said...

Robert - Trying to realign my relationship with time and to see it as more possibility-filled than it once seemed. That said, I'm sure that a task does fill the allocated time. Or as one ages, fill and demand more.

Marylinn Kelly said...

Molly - My hours had been lost for years. The business of changing a belief requires finding a new place to stand. Things appear different from there. Please let me know what you find.

Antares Cryptos said...

Perchance we spent too much time contemplating time. *wink*

In response to journaling; I do not have time to paint art, but I can find the time to create 15 minutes on a journal page. One makes time...

Marylinn Kelly said...

Antares - We spend too much time doing things that only siphon it off for, too often, no worthwhile purpose.

So far, I am finding pen and paper produce a suitable result and, surprise, there seems to be enough time.

Jayne said...

Oh my, I think I have some notions to examine. Please tell us about the other goodies you pulled from the box! :)

Marylinn Kelly said...

Jayne - As soon as they take an identifiable form - and don't reveal a derangement too extreme - I will put them on the table. xo